COURTING??? DATING???

After a whole week of choosing what is right or what might be wrong for me, i decided to go to church on Sunday seeking for answers from God in regard to my earlier situation. The praise and Worship was really good and then thereafter we were blessed to have Pastor Chris come to the Pulpit to give us the good teaching. For years i loved pastor Gary's preaching but of late i have been changing to Pastor Chris. Not that i think one is holier than the other but both are good in their own ways and with different topics.. Oops look at me drifting away from my entry, anyway when pastor Chris came up he started teaching us about marriage and love and then he came to courtship and dating...

Courtship: the time when people have a romantic relationship with the intention of getting married

Dating: the time people have a romantic relationship for passing time.

Then i got onto my phone and started texting The Man asking wat we were doing. Then he replied that for him he thought of it as more of courting than dating. I am sorry to bring back an old Ghost but at that same time i asked "Him", you all know who that is if anything was to happen what would it be? He replied back saying we would be dating. Aha so i was asking for an answer from God and he gave it to me.

So as i sat listening to Pastor Chris i realised that most of us spend almost 5 years dating someone hello 5 years wasting time? for a Woman this is total bullocks and then there after you start looking like your Date's mother and then he starts looking outside to find a "shiny". If you are in a relationship today you need to ask your self if its a courtship or just a date. Then you will know where you stand either as a TW (time Waster) or a serious person who wants to get married and have a family of their own.

That said however its not that all courtships end up in marriage no some people regardless of the fact that they could be courting their partners might be thinking otherwise and losing focus that is why it is important to sit your partner down and clear the air so that you know where you both stand.

I think i now seem to have gone astray front he point... What was the point anyway? I was just tryinr to bring out the difference in the relationships we get involved in today.

Listening to: JT

Mood: I have a lot of work and no salary yet so i am definitely sulking.

Quote: "The man who fights for his fellow-man is a better man than the one who fights for himself" - Seward Darrow, 1857 - 1938

I LET GO

Yesterday i weighed my options and decided to meet Ben and tell what was on the ground. i told him i was dating someone and we are very serious about our relationship. i also told him how if anything was to happen between me and him, it would not be easy because of our different beliefs, i personally would not cross to the other side and i don't think he would do the same. All this time he was quiet and i was the only one talking. After i was done with my yaddering (does this word exist?), he sighed and then he told me how he knew i was attached to someone and by my name "Fudge" it was evident that i am Christian and that despite all that he still thought things would work out. Then he told me to show him my palm which i did so he started reading my palm and this is what he read, " I am going to be a very naughty wife, i have a long life, will have 3 children, i started getting rich at 17 (which is true) and will become broke mid way but i will have assets that will make me have a comfortable life. So i told him to read his own and this is what he found out, He will have 2 wives, not so much money but it will give him enough comfort and he will have lots of children. Then after the reading i asked him what he thought about what i had just talked to him about then he said "Fudge i will wait" if we were meant to be we will even if it is 50 years from now it will still happen.
As we finished our coffee, he got a small gold ring (too small for any adult finger) and gave it to me so i asked him what it was for and he told me to keep it and always remember the love that is waiting for me so he asked me to give him something to always remember me from i did not have anything to give at the time so i promised to give him a bracelet that i bought in England next time i see him. I have kept it with all the other things i get from people as souvenirs. And i say this will be the very last time i talk about him until 50yrs have passed.

Listening to: Bring me to life - Evanescence

Mood: As if cloudy

Quote: "Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, And don't put up with people that are reckless with yours" - Kurt Vonnegut Jr, 1922 - 2007.

WISHING ON THE STARS

The past few weeks have been life changing for me. I met someone through a friend of mine. Okay i like giving names so let us start Friend 1 is Pat, friend 2 is Ben. So i met Ben through Pat but then the first time we met he was just this sweet nice looking charming young man. Then every time i met Pat Ben was with him so we got to know each other, exchanged numbers and that was it. Then for the past 2 weeks he has been taking me out for coffee, ice cream you name it. Now the thing is he is falling and i am attached to someone. And then something else he is not of my religious conviction not even close, he is on the other side where they are allowed to take on more than 2 wives. People might think that this is not a reason for things not to happen but my dear it is a major reason they contradict each other. Imagine if i started dating him, would it be that one day my family and friends will have to take off their shoes so as to enter his holy place to witness holy matrimony or will it be his people to come to listen to Pastor Komagum or skinner talk about how evil it is to have more than one wife? He is so so charming i don't know how i am going to put it all down for him. Besides i have some one i really care for despite the fact that he does not do certain things for me like Ben does. I dont want you to think that i am now comparing but it is evident.
I feel so bad that the person who has treated me like a princess does not have a chance to be treated like a prince. Why do nice people come a a wrong time or even with one small but a major factor in our lives?

Okay he has called let me answer this call i hope he is telling me that i am Christian and this cant go any further so that its not me hurting him its him helping me out.

Till Next time

TO LOVE TO HOLD TILL...... YOU DO US PART

That day i woke up knowing it was going to be a normal day where people wake up, go to school and then back to their apartments. Then i met him we chatted we became friends, then we became kissing friends and before i knew it he was introducing me as his future wife. Hold on was i ready for that? No not at sweet 22 is it sweet to be 22? Well so while he was introducing me as his future wife he still could not get over his ex girlfriend. everything i did was compared to lets call her Natalie. SO because i wanted things to work i lost weight and became slim like Natalie i grew my hair as long as Natalie i wore high heels like Natalie. I however got tired of being like Natalie and one day i decided to go back to being The candy chocolate chip and caramel i had always been.
Yah it did not go well he started staying away from me, he made excuses of his cat dying and he had to be with family to mourn. Oh did i say that i had met the whole family as the future wife? Then one weekend he tells me he is going to a friends' village for Introduction and sincerely i did not see any harm in him going.
Then on Monday a close friend of mine asked me why i was so mean not to invite them for our introduction and i told him there was no introduction and this is what he told me" I guess he has introduced Natalie because i was wondering why he had to go to Ntungamo when your Village is Masindi". Ooooops there goes my Love the one i was meant to love, to hold till Natalie did us part....
So i call him up and this is the conversation on phone:

Me: Hey how are you?
Him: I am okay and you?
Me Am good in town shopping.
Him: Why didn't you come home last night yet you knew i had come back from that introduction?
Me: (Shaky voice)Because your wife would not be amused seeing me or even hearing that i spent the night at your place.
Him: what are you talking about baby?
Me: Don't baby me now i know everything but why did you have to fool your parents about us yet Natalie has always been the one?
Him: Well am so sorry sometime we are fools and don't realize the mistakes we did. Am so so sorry i will make it up to you.
Me: Don't make it up to me, make it up to your wife clik clik that is me hanging up

Guess what i still trust i can find the one TO love and To hold until Death do us Part.

THE BEGINNING

hey everyone out there i have been hearing a lot about blogging from one of you and now i have finally joined. i hope we get to interact and share life's ups and downs..
Till the next time ....... buonas díaz